Why do we have sex?
When I ask that question during The Talk workshops, the answers I get are as varied as what just went through your mind - and then some. People have sex to connect. They have sex to lose themselves or to find themselves again. They want to lose track of time or gain a sense of the moment. They have it for pleasure. They have it for a sense of power or to give power over to another person. Sometimes they have sex for food, or a safe place to stay, or to feel wanted and secure.
People have sex with people they like and people they’d rather not talk to. They have sex with people they know and with strangers. They have sex with people they’re afraid of and with people who keep them safe and respect them.
What we’re trying to foster through this blog and through outreach in our local community is a system of thought about sex that allows people to realize that, no matter the reason, no matter the partner, or the number of partners, they can have super-hot sex with positive outcomes. It’s within their power to choose what amount of risk they want to take on. It’s our job as health educators to help them understand what those risks are.
So, let’s talk about it. Why do you have sex?
I have sex to celebrate my relationship with my sweetheart. There’s also a huge amount of connecting and energy sharing during sex (with him).
In the past, I haven’t always had sex for what I would consider good reasons. This is much better (imo).
Okay, so I have had sex for the majority of reasons listed above, all at different phases of my life. Some out of circumstance some out of sheer desire. The reason i have sex now is because I love her, because it is the most liberating and pleasurable experience of almost two decades filled with sex for all the wrong reasons. I am thankful that now at this point in my life it is out of love and mutual admiration and multiple orgasms.
I have sex because it feels good. Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. And the only times I’ve ever regretted any of the sex I’ve had were those rare times when something about it felt wrong at the time, like an emotional disconnect, or a sense that I’d compromised one of my principals, or like my partner and I were on two completely different pages about the moment. Those times have been blessedly few and far between.
I have sex because it feels good. Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. And the only times I’ve ever regretted any of the sex I’ve had were those rare times when something about it felt wrong at the time, like an emotional disconnect, or a sense that I’d compromised one of my principals, or like my partner and I were on two completely different pages about the moment. Those times have been blessedly few and far between.
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I really think this is an awesome and carefully written educating post and will be posting this article on our blog this week.
Thanks!